Your 40s are the opening night. The stage is set. The lighting is flattering (especially if you stand just so). The script is in your hands.
Society might tell you that turning 40 makes you invisible. We say: Finally. The male gaze? The pressure to perform "pretty"? The fear of being too loud, too smart, too much? When you are invisible, you can finally watch the world rather than perform for it. You wear the outrageous earrings. You take up space on the dance floor. You speak your mind in the meeting. Who is going to stop you? They can't see you anyway. free 40 something mag
We used to be friends with everyone. Now, we curate. The Free 40 has no time for "obligation friends." You know the ones—the energy vampires, the competitive ones, the ones who never ask how you are. You release them with love, but you release them fast. You replace them with the "Ride or Die 10pm Crew"—the friends you can call when you are tired, in your sweatpants, and need a real laugh. Depth over breadth. Your 40s are the opening night
Why "40 something"? Because we reject the tyranny of the specific number. The script is in your hands
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